Vibrator Game for Couples: Tied Up While the Dom Just Watches

In this game the dom does almost nothing, yet controls everything. The sub is tied up, with a vibrator buzzing in their underwear. The dom sits down facing them and just watches. They decide when the vibration gets stronger, when it gets weaker, and when it stops completely. All the sub can do is squirm, with no way to escape. It's great for beginner couples, because it's dead simple to set up, and the dom's job is clear: watch.

What do you need?

• A vibrator that fits in underwear. A remote-controlled panty vibrator is the most comfortable. A small wand-style vibrator works too, if the underwear holds it in place.
• Something to tie them up with. Cuffs, rope, or just a tie or a belt.
• A chair for you, facing your partner.
• Scissors nearby, so you can cut the ties at any moment.

How long does it take? 15–30 minutes, including tying up and untying at the end.

Talk it through first

• Are bondage and orgasm control okay? If one of them isn't, skip that part.
• A signal for when something's wrong. Besides the safeword, you need a signal that works with tied hands. For example, humming loudly three times in a row.
• How it ends. Decide in advance whether the sub gets to come at the end. Or whether the dom decides on the spot.

How it goes

1. Warm-up. Lead your partner to the bed and undress them down to their underwear. Kiss and stroke them for a few minutes, so you both arrive in the moment.
2. Tying up. Tie their hands to the headboard or behind their back. You don't even need a bed, a door works too. Tie a knot at one end of the rope, throw it over the top of the door, and close the door. The knot catches on the other side. Use the other end to tie their hands above their head, so you play standing up. Tie it so two of your fingers fit under the rope.
3. The vibrator. Put the vibrator in their underwear, right where they feel it most. Turn it on at the lowest setting.
4. Sit down and watch. Sit facing them. From now on, you don't touch. Tell them what you see. How their hips move, how their breathing speeds up, how they bite their lip.
5. You're in control. Sometimes turn it up, sometimes down, sometimes off for half a minute. The sub should tell you when they're close. Then stop it, and wait a little before turning it back on.
6. The end. If that's what you agreed, let them come, or turn it off for good. Then untie them, and stay cuddled up for a while.

What to watch out for

• Numb hands. Hands tied above the head can go numb within 10–15 minutes. Check in now and then, and switch positions if needed.
• Too much stimulation. After coming, the vibration quickly becomes unpleasant. If the sub signals, turn it off right away.
• The vibrator heating up. Some vibrators get warm after longer use. If it's hot, take a break.
• With the door setup. Lock the door, so nobody can open it from the other side. Raised arms tire faster when standing. Don't tie them too high, and lower them a bit every ten minutes.
• Never the neck. Never put any tie around the neck, and never leave your tied-up partner alone in the room.

Variations

• With a blindfold. The sub can't see you reach for the remote, so every change is a surprise.
• With a forbidden word. While the game lasts, the sub can't say "please". If they do, they get a round at the strongest setting.
• Switch roles. Try it the other way around another night.

If you liked this game, the submissive tasks for beginner couples article has shorter ideas. And you can browse every card in the deck here.